The other day, someone pointed me to this craptastic pity party on dating in NYC after they saw this Facebook update. I was actually offended (s)he sent me that link, as the author just went on and on about how she thinks women must behave in order to date a decent guy. How she’s too old fashioned for the men in NY because she doesn’t want to have one night stands. How much dating in this city sucks x972938743.
Seriously. I was cringing reading that piece so guess what. Oh yes I AM blogging about this. Dear Juliet: From one female to another? SHUT YOUR PIE INTERNET-HOLE AND STEP YOUR GAME UP!!
“I am not slutty enough for New York.” – really? REALLY? Have you and your ‘myriad friends’ ever dated outside of NY? I’ve lived in several cities over the past years, and the dating pool is of much higher calibre in NYC than any. other. city.
The men here are intelligent, charming, chivalrous gentleman and I’ve yet to come across socially awkward jerks who try to sleep with me before dessert… which is waaaaaay more than I can say about LA, SF and even Seattle.
The laundry list of complaints you have about game playing? All the overanalyzing? KNOCK IT OFF and Be. Your. Self. Don’t waste your time or his!
Dating is not rocket science! I don’t sleep around, have one night stands nor do I have sex on the first date…yet I have zero dating issues. Conversely, my days are jam packed. NYC is the. best. city to be single.
Your problem is not the men. Simply, you need to learn how to properly play the game. Instead of saying directly: “I don’t have sex on the first date!” – which basically translates to: “This female is gonna end up a nag/annoying/pest” in man language. Try rephrasing in flirty ways – a language men understand. (DUH)
Wake-up.
At the end of the day, females are treated the way they present themselves. It’s the fine line between high maintenance and easy going. Playful and flirty yet not a slut. Intelligent and independent while being feminine. Be irresistible. Fun. Sexy. Make him think about you. Want you. So much so, he courts and keeps courting you.
Dating 101!!
So instead of blaming an entire city for sucking, take a step back and look at yourself. From the way you sound, I am 99.99999% convinced you and your friends will run into the same issues over and over, regardless of geographic location. Then BOOM. You’ll end up even more bitter and cynical than you are now. This is when you will be doomed, as a boo-boo faced vibe is one males AND females pick up – ever heard of ‘misery loves company’? Then when that happens, people (males and females) don’t walk. They RUN.
Your ‘insight’ is a steaming pile of BS. Get over yourself and your issues, then perhaps you will enjoy a healthy dating lifestyle. Just saying.
Though now that I think about it, frustrated females like her and her friends, make females like me a catch. Actually… perhaps I shouldn’t post this… ;)
