I have the absolute worst taste in men.
Lumping the men I dig into the “douchebag” category is a bit harsh, since they do not look like the common douchebags. i.e. greasy hair, designer clothes wearin, name dropping, flashy car driving, guido-ish, Myspacing…douchebags. The douchebags I am attracted to, are undercover douchebags.
Ok, you’re probably confused but check this out. So today, a very good friend of mine shed some perspective.
According to him:
“douche bags are CHARMING & confident — they come at you with unexpected sh*t cuz they’re born playas. That’s what’s attractive, a guy who knows he’s got game and isn’t afraid to take a risk, be bold, etc.
Most dudes don’t know how to take all that magnetic sh*t and package it into a something that doesn’t get all douchey. A guy has to have some swagger to be a strong dude, but he becomes a douche when he believes too much in the swagger, right? And he doesn’t realize that a little humility every now and then will make the girl swoon. He doesn’t realize that throwing some nobility, or thoughtfulness, into the mix will make him something much greater than a lady-killer. Like, if you remember some shit a girl said, and run it back to her later, holy crap. I took that little trick — of listening well — and made it part of who I am.
Lastly, a douche’s worst downfall is that he’s super selfish.
Holy crap, the man is on point!!
Then, he (my friend), closed the message with:
“etc etc. It takes one to know one ;) Clearly I have douchey propensities. The love of a good woman set me straight when I hit college, she showed me that my shenanigans weren’t cutting it. But if he’s not trained early, a dude won’t ever get straight.”
Now that is hot.
He is real, honest, tells it like it is, and knows himself. Le sigh.
Now that I know this, I need to apply.
First step? Putting myself on blast to (hopefully) avoid future mistakes.
So Mona. Focus. And watch for these characteristics:
- Thoughtfulness (or lack thereof)
- Nobility (or lack thereof)
Perspective is wonderful.
But everything, is easier said than done. ha! ;)